YOU BUILT THIS LIFE WITH CARE
You chose the right partner. You worked hard. You followed the advice, ticked the boxes, did everything you were supposed to do. And now you're here, raising children in the home you dreamed of and it feels nothing like you thought it would.
You're exhausted, over-functioning, and even a bit resentful. The equality you once felt has vanished. The emotional load is constant, the mental labour invisible, and you keep asking yourself: 'How did I end up here?' You love your family, but somewhere along the way, you lost yourself.
I'm Polly Crabtree, Cycle Breaking Therapist. I help thoughtful women who are carrying too much - mentally, emotionally, and generationally - understand their patterns so they can stop feeling stretched thin and start living in a way that works for them.
You don’t have to live by rules you didn’t write.
You were raised to be kind, to be helpful, to keep the peace. You learnt early how to scan the room, manage emotions, and put yourself second. It made you competent. It made you dependable.
It also made you exhausted.
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Now you’re raising children of your own and somewhere deep down, you know it can’t go on like this.
This is your chance to rewrite the script. To choose something different.
Not because you’re broken, but because you’re ready.
I'VE BEEN THERE
I used to think being a good mum, partner and therapist meant putting myself last. I thought if I couldn’t hold it all, I was failing.
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But it left me exhausted. I was running on empty, overwhelmed, and disappearing from my own life. It wasn’t dramatic , it was quiet and slow, but it still happened.
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It took almost burning out to realise I was living out a story I didn’t write.
One I’d inherited without even noticing.
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I wasn't dramatic and I didn’t burn everything down. Instead I started small and built a new way of being.
And now I help other mums do the same: spot the old rules, understand the patterns, and choose something different.
Without guilt, and importantly, without losing the people they love.
'My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.'
